The right life partner
Qualities to look for while choosing the right life partner in an arranged marriage
Your dilemma to choose the right life partner in an arranged marriage ends here.
Life is like a journey. We never know what’s next on this road; Speed breakers, potholes, or a smooth passway. Any such external factor is beyond our control.
But the person sitting next to us can add little difference to this passage. If the co-passenger is good, then even a rough journey can be made memorable.
Dear reader,
I am sure by now you know what I am trying to justify.
Yes, It’s about choosing the right life partner. It can make a difference in our journey of life.
When someone is on their search for a life partner, several questions start pondering their mind.
How will I come to know if this person is good for me or not?
How can I tell if they will make a good life partner?
What questions should I ask them?
This article will answer all such questions.
But before that, you should understand that marriage is not a destination. It is an ongoing process in which two people get to know different aspects of each other.
Despite getting to know the flaws, they decide to stick together. In a marital bond, two people have to adjust to one another’s shortcomings. In some marriages, when both the spouses can no longer bear with each other, they end up in the relation. Well, that’s another side of this story.
A bad relationship can be very stressful. Hence choosing a life partner must be a well thought off decision. So, it’s crucial to know that what matters while choosing a life partner.
In an arranged marriage setup, the girl and the boy meet each other. They spend some time and then decide if they are compatible enough to spend life together.
Yes, different people indeed have distinct priorities. Expectations from a life partner vary from person to person.
But still, here are some things you should keep in mind while choosing your Mr & Mrs. Right.
Maturity
Are they mature enough to handle marriage?
Love binds us together and, maturity adds strength to a relation. A juvenile cannot sail the ship of marriage. Long-lasting marriages require the maturity and sensibility of both life partners.
Friendship
Do you see a good friend in them?
Not all friends can be potential life partners but, the right life partner is always a good friend. If two people are good friends, then they are more comfortable and compatible with each other.
Respect
Do you acknowledge each other’s individuality?
Respect for your life partner is a positive feeling towards them. It depicts your sense of admiration for your better half. Love and integrity cannot exist without respect.
Interests
Do you both share some common interests?
Sharing at least some common interests allows two people to spend better time together. Having thoughts and nature that are poles apart is a red flag in married life.
Decision making
Do they have decision-making capacity?
There will come times in your married life when you have to make quick, reasonable decisions. If you are dating someone, try to examine if the other person has a well-defined thought process. Also, having a life partner who is also a good advisor is like a cherry on the cake.
Emotionally independent
Can they handle difficulties in life? Do they have anger management skills?
Life will throw unseen challenges to you both. Wiser is the one who has patience during uncertain times. If your life partner is emotionally stable, then that’s an added advantage in your married life.
Financial stability
Are they a potential bread earner?
Before getting into a life-long relationship with someone, understand that how you both will manage your lifestyle. You cannot spend your life on emotional aspects. Money is the medium to fulfill materialistic needs.
Family and basic values
Do you both have similar values in your life?
If two people have similar family values and upbringing, it adds an edge to their married life. With this, you both will better adjust to each other’s families.
Past relationships
What is the case of their past relationships?
Nowadays, it’s common to be in a relationship before marriage. But make sure that the person has emotionally overcome his failed past relationship. Any tightly held traces of the past can affect your future with that person.
Happiness
Can you both make each other laugh?
You or your life partner need not be expert comedians. But you both should share a good sense of humor. A good life partner knows how to lift the mood of their counterpart.
Parenting
Will they be a good parent in the future?
This aspect is crucial if you want to have kids. Raising kids is another journey for married couples. It involves emotional turmoils and selfless hard work. Hence, in the first place, you should ensure that your life partner is caring, sensible, generous and, emotionally declined towards their loved ones.
Future goals
Can you both see a future together?
Try to know the aim and ambition of the other person. If you both have conflicting life goals, then rethink before making the final decision. It necessarily doesn’t mean that you both are into different career streams. It is more about understanding that how you both visualize your life. Two people can have dissimilar educational & professional backgrounds but still, have the same goals.
Well, these were some ground-rooted aspects that one should consider before selecting their life partner.
Though, the looks of a person and other materialistic factors also matter a lot. But practical and emotional aspects withstand in the long run. It’s okay to have standards. But one should not overlook the generosity of any person for the worldly facet. After all, what your life partner is beneath the skin will affect you in the long run.
Words of wisdom:
Don’t be too quick in making the final decision while choosing your life partner. Take your time and then conclude.
Stay away from negativity. No marriage is perfect. Don’t overwhelm yourselves by considering only the negative aspects of married life.
Listen to both your heart and mind while choosing your life partner.
Also, trust your intuition about the other person.
I wish the universe grants, you the best life partner.
Thanks for reading!
